My baby is five today. I awoke with an overwhelming sense of accomplishment, something I don't regularly feel on this journey through motherhood. I am amazed by my tiny child who is now talking, laughing, forming his own quirky little personality. Yesterday Paul and I were laughing because Griffin has developed this funny/nerdy little voice he uses when he delivers a joke. We don't know where it comes from or how it developed. Surely a geeky mama and comedic daddy probably has helped. Regardless, I am amazed by his coming into himself. I can only imagine this is just a tiny taste of what is to come.
Five years ago I had no idea I would love someone instantly upon sight. Be able to lose myself for years into the care and nurturing of his little being. Five years ago I could not imagine how easily I would come to shift to tears of joy streaming down my face, just upon seeing him learn something new, or make a funny face. Five years ago I never thought the birth of this joy would cause my marriage to be pushed and pulled in so many ways that I could actually love my husband more and learn my limits as a spouse. Five years ago I had no sense of the worry, fear and hopes that would come with loving this little being. No idea that my own self would be changed so drastically that I would have to work hard to retain the woman who was, before this little one arrived. Five years ago, I had no idea I could be so exhausted, yet plug on though the days, weeks, years constantly giving and not expecting anything in return. Five years ago I had no understanding of how my mothering would connect me to my own mother, reveling in her wonderful parenting, and constantly appreciating all that she gave me. Five years ago my house was clean, laundry was minimal, and time was something to fill. Discussions about nose picking, potty talk and superheroes only occurred in my classroom, rather than at my dinner table.
Several friends are about to add their second child to their familes, or are just beginning their journey into parenthood. I have felt this urge to warn them. Warnings that were passed to me during my first pregnancy, which I tended to ignore, about time flying, how quickly they grow, enjoying the moment....As I am now entering the stage of mourning the end of babies in our house, I am beginning to understand how quickly time really does go when these little ones are around. Paul and I were laughing another night, as we attemtped to actually have an adult discussion over the chatter and screams of our two children playing. I finally threw up my hands and just said, "we can do this in silence in 16 years, and it will be so very sad."
For now, I will embrace my little marker covered boy with his love of superheroes, fairies, dress up and basketball, knowing that it is all so fleeting and that the moment is here to be enjoyed and respected.